Uncertainty and worry are common feelings but are often left ignored.
When there’s anxiety about who you are, or uncertainty about who you want to be with, it doesn’t feel good. Your stomach is tight and so is your chest. Breathing deeply is impossible and self-care seems stupid.
Restful sleep is long gone, with many days spent awake and waking up is a chore.
Is this what life is supposed to be like, you wonder? No, it can actually be better. You know that, but how do you get there?
You’ve only been following what society has told you is right. But things seem out of place. You met someone who is great, but it doesn’t feel right.
You’re tired of stress and stress makes you tired. People important to you become concerned and this bothers you as this worry only amplifies your anxiety.
Compassion, kindness, and gratitude seem impossible. Sure, you can plan for them and try, but it doesn’t always work. What about those people who seem so calm all the time? – you might wonder. What do they do? Discover what you always knew was possible by reaching out for guidance. Compassion, kindness, and validation are within reach. You have these qualities within you.
Be heard and understood. Simple things can seem complex.
Sound familiar? “Rod had once felt unhappy as he wasn’t yet confident in his identity. He felt awkward and afraid of taking the wrong step. Rod didn’t realize there wasn’t truly a wrong step, and that the grey area of other choices would liberate him.”
You have unique needs and deserve someone who will tailor therapy to you. You deserve someone who listens as well.
No need to prepare in any formal way. Simply find out more by giving me a call.
A little bit about me…
I grew up in a world of scripts. Yes, I have an acting background, but I’m referring to the scripts society had for me. I thought the answers to my “internal conflicts” or lack of understanding about life would dissipate as I lived life. I was convinced that as the years went by, things would be more certain. But that wasn’t what I experienced.
I am originally from Seattle, Washington and came to California because of the sun :-).
Due to my personal struggles, I wanted to help others who were also struggling to find compassion and support. You’re likely tired of people judging you and telling you what to do. I want to help lessen your burden and empower you in your choices. Feeling marginalized is awful, and I want to help you feel better.
I have lived through multiple life challenges that had no black-and-white answer as to how to fix, and that’s what led me to this profession. I actually did start out as an actor and then realize my passion was best served helping people through therapy.
Being gay felt so strange as I was surrounded by straight people who were tolerant but not necessarily validating of my life experience. I target the needs of individual clients and form treatment plans with clients in mind rather than rigid interventions. I became determined to make my therapy room collaborative and welcoming to everyone who entered it. Today, I have that therapy room and I invite you in to share your story and your hopes. I want to help you be the person you want to be.
I had the benefit of many affirming and validating therapists during my own process who accepted and affirmed my identity. These therapists saw me for who I was: hearing loss, being gay, and all were parts of who I was but not my entire self! I graduated from Antioch University Los Angeles with a Masters in Clinical Psychology and was more determined than ever to reach people like you who need support and someone to talk to safely.
I have had the privilege to publish works in peer-reviewed academic journals over the years, which include The International Journal of Narrative Therapy and Community Work. I write because I want to reach all of you and let you all know that the journey is fulfilling.
I understand the importance of providing a judgment-free zone where you can feel affirmed and not shamed. Growing up with a partial hearing loss, I had few role models I could relate to. I also felt different being a gay male and having a creative, non-linear way of thinking.
- Tully, P. D., & Horner, E. (2016). Divorcing the voice of fear: A collaborative, narrative approach to anxiety. International Journal of Narrative Therapy and Community Work, (2), 37-43.
- Tully, P. D., and Johnson, P. (2003). Doug Honig: American civil liberties union. Seattle works for rights. Seattle, WA: Seattle Academy of Arts and Sciences, p. 156.
- Tully, P. D., Savitt, M. E., Stiefel, J. R., Wright, C. E., and Yager, J. C. E. (2001). Army nurse, Mary Jones. Seattle goes to war. Seattle, WA: Seattle Academy of Arts and Sciences, pp. 124-128. Part of the American Oral History Project, Library of Congress.